"Why" instead of "Why"

Did us a crushing blow hit, it was an incurable illness, the death of a beloved person, etc., we are so often the question "Why" ...
"Why did my child die?" An acquaintance asked me that sooo many years eagerly waited to junior had ... this child was only 5 years on the world dwell. A car driver, on a parking lot with the 1st reverse confused, hurt this girl so much that after a few days of hospitalization died ...
"Why?" "Why am I so sick?" , "Why is it so bad to me?" , "Why ...?" It could range with the "why" questions as to continue ... but we find an answer? I think, more often not, and we have to learn with these unanswered questions about live ...
The question "why" takes us nowhere ... they can always too much in the past fall, however, the past is gone and irretrievable!
This question is not one step further and turns in a circle.

It would be better to ask, "Why" of this or that is so, because that makes us look ahead, and possibly do for us in ways that allow us to no longer remain in this state need.
It is at least the opportunity of his life possibly something to change and in a positive direction.

Certainly, there are situations, like for example The above-mentioned, where neither with "why" or "Why", here, the hope remains if they are at the moment not aware perceived that time heals all wounds ...

B.D.